And I line my secrets up all one by one
I put 'em all away when I was done
And I would really love to hear your voice sometime
To close a little distance in my mind
I'm happy, can't you see?
I'm alright, but I miss you
I put 'em all away when I was done
And I would really love to hear your voice sometime
To close a little distance in my mind
I'm happy, can't you see?
I'm alright, but I miss you
Brandi Carlile 2005
Let’s talk Facebook. Although I know it's become fashionable to criticize it, overall I think Facebook is great. If you look at your list of friends you’ll find that the majority are people you really like, people you kind of like, and acquaintances from a happy time in your life. Although there may be a few frenemies stuck in there, generally you won't have anyone you intensely dislike or hate. They won't friend you and you won't friend them. Because of Facebook you can stay in touch/knowledge with people that would have completely disappeared from your life. And you can do it with virtually no effort. The concept is both brilliant and simple.
But I think the best part of Facebook is how it enhances everyone’s self esteem, every single time, no matter what you say. Here’s what I mean by that.
As you probably know, there is an endless stream of annoying comments on the site, just as there is a ton of intelligent and funny material. Let's say someone posts the former. I know everyone has their own list of what drives them crazy; some of mine are:
1) Any post that tells you how to live your life. Look, past 25 most people aren’t changing, and if they are a 10 word comment isn’t going to do it;
2) Any comment that makes absolutely no sense, except possibly to the sender. I guess this is designed to show how mysterious and clever that person is;
3) Any post by anyone who has already posted twice or more that day. OK, once.
So let's assume somebody hits the jackpot and commits all three mortal sins at once. For their fifth post of the day, they quote an obscure philosopher from 1850 which makes absolutely no sense, but as far as I can tell it’s advising me to be happy. Now I read once that the average person has 150 Facebook friends. Based on what I've seen the number is far higher, especially from my single friends. But anyway let's assume that our previous poster has 200 friends. And within a 24-hour period of time 2 people hit the like button, and 2 other people write a favorable response.
The poster feels great. 100% of the people who responded to him have responded favorably. He is not thinking about the other 98% of his friends who have not responded. Maybe 20% or 50% of them that read the post think the same thing about it that I did, or maybe they already hid him from view. But when we post, we never think about that. If we did, we'd rationalize things and say that they all probably liked it but they were just too busy to respond, or maybe they just overlooked that one. Regardless, the favorable response rate is 100%, every time, which encourages us to post more. We’re like Pavlov's dogs.
I think my next blog will be about who is more powerful, Mark Zuckerburg or the President. Things that keep me up at night. Have a good night, everyone.
JR